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Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps, hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope — Maya Angelou

 

Welcome to the story of David and Alexis.  Two lovely young men we had the privilege of hosting last summer as part of a unique vacation program arranged by my adoption agency, A Love Beyond Borders.  It was a wonderful few weeks, spent in Dallas and in New Jersey on the beach.  The boys are caring and loving and bright and fun.  And like so many other children around the world they have been abandoned by their family and need a home and love.  It really isn’t more complicated than that.  If you follow our adventures in the weeks ahead you will get to know these boys through our eyes.

Let me back up a bit.  Why adopt?  This desire has been with me a long time.  When I was a senior in college I went to Haiti to experience another culture and to help.  It was eye opening, like nothing else I had ever seen or experienced in my life.  One of the things we did during our visit was tour an orphanage.  I had never been so moved up to that point in my young life.  I remember one young girl vividly.  She hugged me tightly and did not want to let go.  I have always wondered what happened to her.  I still wonder.  I made a promise to myself right then and there that if I ever had the ability and the means to bring a child into my life who had no one I would do so.  This was in 1983:

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Yes, that is me.  The rest I suppose is history.  A little later than I anticipated but here we go…

I have two wonderful biologic boys, Ryan and Evan.  The boys will be great older brothers to David  and Alexis, I have no doubt about that.  Technically and legally I am adopting as a single, mature (older!) man.  But I have a wonderful partner Wendy, mother of her own four biologic children who will be my partner in this great adventure and a mother to these young men.  Our new kids will be lucky as they will have four other older siblings to look up to: Jacob, Andrew, Louisa, and Elias.

We are incredibly blessed to have six healthy and bright biologic kids between us.  Having your own biologic kids is an amazing experience.  My greatest accomplishment during my years on this planet has been raising Ryan and Evan, their mom and I are so proud of them.  But choosing to adopt a child or children is also profoundly meaningful.  I believe in giving back to my community and trying to make the world a better place.  My parents and my faith and my life education taught me that.  Personally however I have always felt that there can be no greater way of trying to change the world than taking a child (or children) who have no one into your home and your hearts.  These boys, and all children who are adrift out there in the world need love and security and consistency and shelter and food.  They need a family, thats were we come in.

Welcome to the story of David  and Alexis.  This blog is for our family, friends, colleagues, and in my case my patients who have expressed a desire to follow our adventures.  Thank you to all who are helping me make this happen.  Thank you to my extended family who will open their hearts and homes to these boys.  Same to Wendy’s extended family.  Thank you to my friends who I am sure will do the same.  Thank you to our children for understanding why this is so important to me, to us.  Thank you to my partner Brice and my staff Marsha and Kari and Jesseca and Cindy and Mayra and Linda and Heather and Sandra for covering for me in the weeks to come.  A special thank you to Sharon for all her hard work to help me over the years make this a reality.  And thank you to Wendy mostly, who has my back…and my heart.

I leave Thursday night for Bogota.  I am told I will be back in 5-6 weeks with two young men in tow.  Finally.  Follow along with us…

Fred