Greetings from South America

Uneventful flight into Bogota and settled in hotel.  Just filed my online adoption Visa and tomorrow morning I go and pay for it and pick it up.

I have heard from several people that when they try to pull up the blog a site comes up with Colombian men in underwear.  For the record I had nothing to do with this but I think its hysterical!  I found it particularly appropriate that it happened to my baby brother Brian.

I have thought a lot these past weeks and months about what the boys are thinking, are they nervous, excited, anxious?  Probably all of the above.  I can’t imagine what is in their heads, only a guess.

Update…Los chicos y su vida en Dallas

We have had a good first week as we  are all settling in to our new lives in Dallas.   I feel like my head is finally above water as I resume my life at home.   Still lots of things on my “get caught up list” at work and at home but making progress. 

So that old saying it takes a village…it does!  Wendy and I a great team as we get the boys settled.   New clothes and essentials, health insurance, soccer league, teaching responsibilities around the house, learning English.   But we have lots of help.   Sahidyt is a lovely young woman who is helping us with the boys at home but also with all of the above.  The boys already love her and I think the feeling is mutual.  Dee has started formally teaching the boys English and we will all be helping her with that.   Next week the boys will be tested for their educational level in Spanish by our local school system.   And thanks to my staff and everyone else who has offered to pitch in.   We all feel very loved and supported.  First doctor’s appointments and home visit by social workers in a couple weeks (Colombia requires a home visit a month after adoption and every six months for a couple more years).

We are amazed by the boys’ confidence and calm and friendly smiles and grace.  They sleep well, are helpful and curious, and are receptive to our teachings and our love.  They are great with the animals too.

Thanks again to all who followed while we were in Colombia and for your encouraging comments and support.   Suspect I will continue to blog for a bit for those of you who wish to follow and who wish to follow the progress of these new Duffy boys.  And of course I write so that someday these boys can look back and see our journey together through my eyes and Wendy’s. 

Listo para la primera práctica de fútbol!


We are at Tibbs.   Uneventful flight and getting through immigration here not a big deal.  Embassy in Bogotá sent a big packet for each boy.

Great to be home but feels a  bit different to me.  I am in a dense fog, need some rest.  The boys already asleep upstairs.

The gardens out back look great, all our perennials have returned.   That is one of the things I have missed most these past weeks in Colombia, gardening.   This time of year my favorite for that.   

Thanks to all who have followed.  Will keep writing for a bit as I work through my re-entry feelings and we get these boys settled.   It has been a wonderful experience for me, really helpful to focus my thoughts and let you all get a peak at the process and at Colombia.   For those of you who have not met the boys, I hope this electronic introduction has been helpful.  Thank  you for all your good wishes and prayers and support!  It meant a lot.

Need some sleep.  It is wonderful to be back with David and Alexis.


I always save the best for last.  As we prepare to leave for the US I need to acknowledge Wendy and how lucky the three of us are to have her.

Thank you for supporting me in this great adventure ww.  I can’t wait to parent these boys with you, though we have been doing some parenting together of our own clan already I suppose!     Thank you for your support and your calm and your smile…and for your love which surrounds me and supports me every day.  Thank you for your steady guidance, and advice.   Thank you for walking back into my life when I needed an angel.

Te amo.  Tienes mi corazón.  We are all lucky to have you.

We made it through immigration!

We are in the airport!   Through immigration.   Took them about a half hour to go through the paperwork but we made it.   I made pretend I was totally calm.   Wow, we’re through.   

I am physically and emotionally as tired I think as I have ever been.   Haven’t slept well the past few nights.  The anxiety of the unknown in adoption can be overwhelming.  It has been a long and wonderful and wild six weeks.  Leaving exactly six weeks after I arrived.  

The boys and I had time to walk to our favorite spot for dinner, parque 93.   Yes, we have been here long enough to have favorites!   Great meal, walked back to hotel and our favorite driver Andres took us to the airport.

We say goodbye to Bogotá, and Colombia.   For now that is, we’ll be back. 

They are excited and don’t seem the slightest bit nervous.  Their demeanor amazes us, it really does.

The Duffy boys are coming (to their new) home.

We’re coming home 

This is what freedom looks like.   We have the visas!   We are in a cab heading back to the hotel and everyone is fine except me.   I am barely holding it together.  The Duffy curse…

We have to get through immigration at the airport and then more  work in Dallas in AM but the last big step  tonight at the airport.   They can’t kick us out once we are in dallas.

I will breath after we get through immigration tonight.

It’s an indescribable feeling.

It is looking good

I’ll know for sure shortly but they have literally been on the phone with the national visa center in DC.  It sounds like just silly language to me.   The amount of information  they have on the boys and I is very substantial.   They know more about me than I do, to insist my name be on one more piece of paper is just foolish.   

We have plan B.  The boys and I are going house hunting if we don’t get the visa.   I’m going to quit Spanish and learn it on my own here and become a famous Bogota plastic surgeon.   It’s all going to work out.

I hope to post soon that we are coming home.

We are back at embassy waiting

We have returned to be present and plead our case.  My attorney Raul has written a long rebuttal to their request for documents and emailed them a copy this am.   I am hand-carrying the same copy to discuss with them.   We cannot determine what form they want.   Raul knows the system cold and the document they are requesing does not exist.   This is all brand new apparently as of this week.  No warning to parents or agencies.   This is the embassy, not ICBF.

Hoping we can get this resolved today.   It is the most uncomfortable situation I have ever been.  These are legally my children (at least here in Colombia), and the US embassy is refusing to grant me a visa.